The waiting sensation

The anxiousness, nervousness, tension, helplessness, uneasiness, stress, restlessness, edginess, anxiety and worry feeling when you get when you are waiting for something really important can really give you a heart attack. I belief this sensation can be felt when you are in these situations:

1. Waiting for your bonus or increment

2. Waiting for the reply on something important

3. Waiting for the result of your job interview

4. Waiting for the result of your examinations

5. Waiting to enter an interview

6. Waiting for the results of your medical checkup

7. Waiting to see someone important

8. Waiting to see the sex of your baby

9. Waiting for your court case

10. Waiting for information on your loved ones, etc

In these situations, normal people will be anxiously waiting for whatever thing which is important to them. You will lose sleep over these kinds of things. Well some of the experiences I had in these situations are:

a) I think one of the most anxious times I had was when I was waiting for the result of my thesis and my final year examination results. At the same time, I was hoping that I wouldn’t fail any subjects and had to redo another semester, while I was hoping that I get good grades so that I can graduate with my first class honours. I waited and waited and waited everyday…. Logging into my student account for UTM hourly, just to check my results. And, I never got sick of bored from checking every hour… I think I did that for a few weeks until the unofficial results came out. But when the unofficial results came out, I was informed that the university management might change the results if there are any problems with the markings, and that took another couple weeks. The wait was both tiring and stressful. But once the results were confirmed, my sigh of relief, can be heard miles away. Haha… actually the same thing happened with my SPM results as I was waiting for it. Back then, you have to SMS some number to get the results.

b) The second situation was when I am awaiting the reply from a certain someone. It was really tiring thinking what the person will reply me. Sometimes, when I want to have an outing with some friends, waiting for their answer is really stressful, they might say yes or no to you. And when they forget to reply you, it keeps me restless for the rest of the day just to wait for their reply even it’s just a simple reply. There was once, when I messaged a gal for the first time, I messaged at 11 pm, therefore I did not expect her to reply immediately. But even though I knew she probably will not reply me, I was still very restless, waking up every 2 hours just to check my messages. Then the next day was also as tiring and I was in crappy mood because I was just waiting for that one reply. And yet, the reply never came, 12 hours, 14 hours, 24 hours, and then the following day she replied. What a relief. I was so happy it turned my whole day around. After that I became too restless as I was too happy and could not really control myself.

c) The third situation is the information on my yearend bonus and increment. Actually I would normally know the amount of my bonus and increment before I get it from my boss as I have good source. However, once it’s yearend towards the Chinese New Year, everyone in the office is anxiously waiting for news regarding their bonuses and increment. This wait is sometimes quite stressful, as most of my colleagues, me included need the extra money to spend during the Chinese New Year and we would to see whether the boss appreciates us or not by the amount of bonus and increment they award us.

Well these are the few examples I have in my life where I have this really tingling waiting sensation. What’s your???

Try and succeed method

It is also commonly known as the trial and error method, however I would like to change it to “try and be happy that you have tried”. I believe that it is better to have tried and failed rather than never tried and live to regret it. There comes a point in life where you would like to try things out, and you are worried of the losses which might be incurred to yourself if you tried it. At the same time, you would be thinking about the benefits which could be reaped from trying.

This method can applied in many aspects of our lives. Examples are as follows:

1. 1. Starting a business – Of course you would be thinking of having your own business instead of just being an employee for the rest of your life. Are you willing to spare part of your savings and your time to start a business you love? Say you like to bake, and one of your dreams is to have your own bakery and you have been saving enough cash to allow yourself to open your own business. Are you willing to trade your stable, secure job to own your own business? There are of course risks involved here, you might have to quit your job and spend a significant amount of money for your business. Nothing is done without risks, even the current job which you think is secure might not be as secure as it seems. The upside of starting your own business is that you have control over your own future, you will be doing what you love and last but not least, you can be the boss.
2. 2. Life – Many things in life which you could spare some time and think and try doing are actually worthwhile. Would you try bungee jumping, rock climbing, hiking and all the other activities which we do not normally carry out? Some people would be worried to death thinking about these activities when these activities are actually as safe as driving your own car. Let’s say you are currently in New Zealand and you were offered to go bungee jumping with a group of friends, would you do it? As typical Asians we would be worried sick about safety and all the other nonsense. But would you regret it once you get back from your trip? Another example is when your relative and friends invite you to join them for a trip to Europe, the United States or China? We would normally think, I am going to burn a hole in my wallet. But 20 to 30 years down the road, when you are old and cannot travel, you will regret not being able to travel to those places right?
3. 3. Love – This I belief only applied to all introverts and most typical Asians. What would you do if you see someone you like? Would you just keep quiet and play it out? Or take the initiative and go after that person. The same question goes to both sexes. Of course, you might be rejected as that person maybe unavailable or not in the market, but how would you know if you never tried? The worst you can get out of asking someone is just a bruised ego right? Who knows you might be getting your love of your life?

Conclusion. Just to it!!!! J